Turn-offs and deal breakers?

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Postby Dazza » Fri Sep 19, 2008 8:54 pm

It's practical more than anything.
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Postby Extreme Allah » Fri Sep 19, 2008 8:59 pm

In my teens I was the coldest person in the world. It wasn't even a front, I just literally didn't care about anything. I still am in most ways; I'm notoriously unrattleable in terms of sick poker swings (like, I don't feel it if I lose 70% of my net worth in an afternoon), and I've never felt particularly sad about a breakup; it's mostly just obligatory Woody Allenion introspection. But I've recently gotten to a point where I can work myself up over movies and stuff. It's kind of cool, actually.
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Postby vessel » Fri Sep 19, 2008 9:59 pm

A woman's hair is not a problem for me. It would just be plain stupid for someone with this much chest and pubic hair to ask someone to be up to that kind of maintanance. I'd easily start being more aware of mine if my mate said something, but I'd rather not have to shave my chest. The only thing I kind of find a turn-off is body odor or other unpleasant scents. I fall in love with pretty much every woman I meet anyway, so little is needed to keep me interested. Good conversation and a lot of petting is about all I ask for about now, but I do find a woman who can't carry a conversation sort of a no-deal. I'm a talker.
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Postby vessel » Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:05 pm

If I had a mate in your situation, Rach, unable to show emotion in public, I would do my best to show her that this is a comfortable atmosphere to be herself, around me. I really care how people feel, so most likely I'd find some sort of way to coax it out very slowly, to let her know that that wouldn't be too healthy.
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Re: Turn-offs and deal breakers?

Postby buttsie » Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:48 pm

PERFECTaNATomy wrote:Is there any major turn-off or deal breaker when you are dating someone or attracted to someone that would prevent you from even considering them?

For me it's really long nails or fake nails of any kind.. for some reason this is just a killer for me.. I can't explain it. I think it represents phoniness to me on some deep level.. I don't like it visually either.. hands are really important to me... haha. I tend ot like girls more natural.

I hope I haven't offended anyone! I am curious what other people find repulsive.. wondering if I am alone.


Dazzas about summed it all up but I'd add

Emotional baggage from past relationships.Its just not what you talk about
Lacking confidence...continuously fishing for more compliments
Selffishness...its all about ME....dropping big names of who they know etc
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Postby buttsie » Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:49 pm

Extreme Allah wrote:In my teens I was the coldest person in the world. It wasn't even a front, I just literally didn't care about anything. I still am in most ways; I'm notoriously unrattleable in terms of sick poker swings (like, I don't feel it if I lose 70% of my net worth in an afternoon), and I've never felt particularly sad about a breakup; it's mostly just obligatory Woody Allenion introspection. But I've recently gotten to a point where I can work myself up over movies and stuff. It's kind of cool, actually.


Arent you still in your teens or did i miss my birthday invite :P
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Postby Extreme Allah » Sat Sep 20, 2008 12:01 am

Technically, I guess. I consider teens to be pre-18. I turned 19 in June.
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Postby buttsie » Sat Sep 20, 2008 12:14 am

There is that.To me age is largely irrelevant but the older and more experienced you are the more you should mellow.Doesnt always work like that way in this dog eat dog world

Curious stat says that males in the 20-25 age bracket have a high probability of DUI because they dont give a shit

That cold freeze could be coming back when you turn 20 :twisted:
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Postby maverick88 » Sat Sep 20, 2008 1:21 am

Extreme Allah wrote:In my teens I was the coldest person in the world. It wasn't even a front, I just literally didn't care about anything. I still am in most ways;


So, since joining np.com it has thawed you out a little and made you into a little more caring person? :P
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Postby vessel » Sat Sep 20, 2008 1:24 am

My teen years were fucking depressing. Even thinking about it made my stomach churn and my eyes water. In some ways, I don't think I got over those times, I still have a lot of baggage from the era.
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Postby maverick88 » Sat Sep 20, 2008 1:26 am

vessel wrote:My teen years were fucking depressing. Even thinking about it made my stomach churn and my eyes water. In some ways, I don't think I got over those times, I still have a lot of baggage from the era.


So were mine, at least on the social level otherwise they were ok.
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Postby vessel » Sat Sep 20, 2008 1:43 am

Made a long post but it didn't take. It took alot out of me too.
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Postby plop » Sat Sep 20, 2008 11:47 pm

omgzrachel wrote:I can't decide if that's really fucked up or just badassed.


Hmmm... form what I have read, you aren't cold. You find it hard to express emotions and so, not to feel that sort of things.

In my opinion, you are more likely self protective. Or find problems to express to others.
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Postby quick_wit » Sun Sep 21, 2008 5:04 am

omgzrachel wrote:Well, that's understandable. I'm not going to shave my legs if I plan on wearing pants and I'm certainly not going to worry too much about what's going on underneath my panties if I'm not with somebody. But I find it sort of disheartening and, honestly, an annoying double standard, when men find a little personal grooming (I'm not talking plucking eyebrows and waxing) "faggy" or ultra-vain.


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Postby vessel » Sun Sep 21, 2008 5:12 am

I don't set standards for my mate, and I'd at least expect her to realize how hard it is for me to shave. I have skin so sensitive, even the best razor feels like my skin is being peeled off layer by layer. I fucking hate it. And then I spend about seven hours shaking, trying to relax from all the different irritations happening at once. Too fucking much, so if she doesn't like a hairy man, she can very well find some hairless rat with less physical problems. I wish I didn't have so much hair, but there's nothing I can do.

If my lady didn't want to shave her legs or anything else, I wouldn't give a shit. I would only request of her what I would be able to oblige on her behalf, save for anal, because I don't even like that to begin with. Plus, I don't think I've ever had a girlfriend who wanted to shove something in my butt, thankfully. But I digress.
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